Algumas das minhas citações favoritas sobre o perdão e sentimentos de culpa

Guilt (sentimentos de culpa) coming to terms with past mistakes:

Iyanla  Vanzant:

·         “Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed into the future.”

·         “Guilt can hold us hostage. Let go of guilt: guilt is a wasted emotion – it consumes energy, it consumes lives.”

·         “Acknowledge what you did; ask forgiveness; and, if possible, make amends.”

·         “Give yourself permission to be OK; give yourself permission to forgive yourself.”

·         “Take responsibility and make different choices (replace guilt with responsibility):

I am human

I make mistakes

And I give myself permission

To forgive myself”

·         “When you know better, you do better.”

(acho que as minhas favoritas são a 1ª e a última)

Marianne  Williamson:

·         “We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.”

·         “It’s by learning to make forgiveness central to our thinking that we are healed of our pain.”

Aldous  Huxley:

·         "Chronic remorse (…) is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean." 

Gary Zukav:

·         "Guilt is one of life's most challenging emotions and totally unproductive"

·         “Guilt impairs your ability to learn from your experiences. When you see something that you (…) wish you had done differently, remember how (…) your experiences are designed to inform, support, and benefit you, not cause you to contract into fear and remorse.” 

·         “Guilt keeps you from seeing that you cannot cause another person emotional pain. You can trigger emotional pain in others, but their pain comes from inside them, not from you. Their pain is an opportunity for them to learn about themselves. Your pain is an opportunity for you to learn about yourself. Guilt distracts you from that crucial lesson.”

This is a (very) powerful statement – IMHO (na minha modesta opinião)

·         “Guilt is actually a twisted or manipulative way of seeking forgiveness. It is the belief that if you inflict suffering on yourself for your choices, another will forgive you for them. This belief keeps you in pain because only you can forgive yourself.” 

Esta frase faz-me lembrar uma senhora idosa que conheço muito bem, mas também acho que esta maneira de ser e pensar pode ser produto de uma educaçáo católica (aqui vemos bem as diferenças entre o catolicismo e o protestantismo; embora ambas religiões acreditem que Jesus Cristo é o filho de Deus, acho que os católicos são mais dados a remorsos e a actos de penitência e contrição)

Martha Beck:

·         “The past doesn't exist except as a memory, a mental story, and though past events aren't changeable, your stories about them are. You can act now to transform the way you tell the story of your past, ultimately making it a stalwart protector of your future.” 

·         “Many people pour years of energy into useless ‘shouldn't haves.’ (…) Even drearier are the sad ones, who forever drone some version of ‘If only.’ (…) If you're prone to unproductive regret, please hear this: everyone agrees with you. That thing you regret? It really, really, really shouldn't have happened. But. It. Did. If you enjoy being miserable, by all means, continue to rail against this fact. If you'd rather be happy, prune the ‘shouldn't haves’ from your mental story, and move on.”

Thich Nhat Hanh:

·         "Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness."

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Forgiveness

·         “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” – Tony Robbins

·         “Holding onto resentment is like holding onto your breath. You’ll soon start to suffocate.” – Deepak Chopra

·         “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese

·         “When you haven’t forgiven those who’ve hurt you, you turn back against your future. When you forgive, you start walking forward.” – Tyler Perry

·         “Forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” – Lewis Smedes

·         “The knowledge of the past stays with us. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clinging and disappointments of the past that blind our spirit.” – Jack Kornfield

·         “Forgiveness is the experience of peacefulness in the present moment. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it changes the present.” – Frederic Luskin

·         “The motto should not be ‘forgive one another” but rather “understand one another.” – Emma Goldman (a minha favorita)

·         “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” – Catherine Ponder

·         “Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.